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The Thursday Thesis
Thoughts and Lessons from Life & Guitar Teaching

Episode 114 - Indiana Cowmeadow...

30/8/2018

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Sometimes I have to look away whilst I do the next stupid thing on my list...

The Thursday Thesis  - 30/08/2018

When I was in my twenties, I had a great idea for a business – buy a house to rent out, then use the profit from that to build a deposit to buy a second house, then rinse and repeat forever.

But -  being just a naive young cub in the world of bears – I doubted my idea and asked around for help and advice. I asked the people I loved - people who had no business experience - about my great idea and they advised me to not even try; hang on to your pennies and save, save, save.

I understood that they wanted to protect me from the risk of failure: they loved me, after all. They didn’t want to see me balls things up.

Their advice wasn’t the advice of an expert in business – they were experts on working in jobs they hated and earning just enough to get by on.

Great choice of mentor, right?

I listened to them anyway and began to doubt myself...

Pretty soon I began to assume I’d missed something in my research, because it looked great on paper. I hesitated, and years rolled past as I watched other people pursuing similar ideas and making a boatload of money as the property market boomed.

Back then the problem wasn’t the idea: the problem was me.

So it goes...

A couple of years ago I was looking at how I lived my life and what I want to do over the next few years – it’s something I’ve learnt to do every month, because I’m a loose cannon unless I keep an eye on myself.

Everything was running smoothly, I was very busy with guitar students, my book-writing was progressing and the second draft of The 9 Weird Things That Guitarists Do... was done. That left just enough time to record a demo of a new song and write some uplifting lyrics.

But there were a couple of things on my Do List that I hadn’t ventured out on, despite writing them down every month.

One of the uncompleted items on my list was starting out in the proprty business. But it was a stubborn non-mover, and I began to re-think why I wanted to get into that business at all.

Adventure: that was the call I realised I was answering with the new business start-up.

It turns out that business is like life: an adventure, a game, a dance with circumstances and the other dancers in the market.

How do you think I feel about having adventures?

Terrified, of course: but by recognising that starting that business was an adventure, rather than a life-and-death struggle. I felt better than thinking of it as me “entering the lions’ den” and it was way easier to actually take the first step in the new business and imagining myself hacking through a jungle to claim the treasure was a nice image - turns out a machete looks good on me.

Skip forward to today and I’ve been in that new business for a couple of years. It’s been challenging, rewarding, frustrating, revealing and tiring.

But most of all it has been an adventure.

 

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8 Hours a Day...

23/8/2018

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Episode 113 - 8 Hours a Day...
The Thursday Thesis  - 23/08/2018
 
For as long as I can remember I’ve been interested in sleep.

Sleep fascinates me.

More accurately I’ve been interested in doing without sleep for most of my adult life. As a kid I tried to stay awake all night - night after night – in the hope that I’d be able somehow to forget to sleep once I’d established the habit. I reasoned that if I could eliminate sleep from my routine I’d have more time to read and learn, then I’d eventually know everything and life would be better.

It’s funny what you believe as a kid, isn’t it?

But, to a certain extent I still have the idea in my tiny, pea-sized brain, and I still have a load of unanswered questions about sleep:
  1. Why do we sleep?
  2. Why do we dream?
  3. Why don’t we act-out our dreams?
  4. Why are dreams bizarre and strange?
  5. How do we exercise bladder control when we are asleep?
  6. How does my sleep apnoea affect the quality of my own sleep?
  7. Snoring...?
  8. How does a person’s body-clock affect sleep?
  9. What about naps – do they count as proper sleep?
  10. Can I get paid to sleep? I could turn professional!
  11. Who says we should we sleep for 8 hours every day?

Today I’m just going to stick to question 11 – “Who says we should sleep for 8 hours a day?”

Well, first of all, my mum did.

But I wasn’t going to take it at face value, so for years I experimented with sleep patterns of varying lengths whilst I worked shifts at a busy casino in Birmingham. Some days I’d get a long eight hour-ish sleep, and sometimes I’d only sleep 3 or 4 hours between 14 hour double shifts, bookended by my 20 miles there, twenty miles back cycle ride into the city.

Ever since then I’ve slept only 5 hours a night, and I’m not alone in this – several of my friends are short-sleepers, too. Medicine would probably tell us to try to get 8 hours...

Why 8 Hours?

It seems to have evolved since the 17th century, when street-lamps were installed in Paris, Amsterdam, and London.

With the coming of streetlights, being abroad at night became less dangerous, and mentions of the traditional/natural two-phase sleep pattern began to fade from contemporary literature and documents.

Humans were – until that time – accustomed to a two-part, or “biphasic” sleep pattern, with a “First Sleep” of around four hours, a period of two or three hours of wakefulness, then a “Second Sleep” lasting another four hours or so. This appears to be the natural way we sleep, according to psychiatrist Thomas Wehr.

Wehr observed a group of volunteers subjected to 14 hours per day of darkness. Within a few weeks, the group adopted the two-sleep routine without any prior knowledge of it, suggesting that this pattern is a biological norm when artificial light is absent.

But that’s still eight hours of sleep every day, which seems to be a lot.

Eight hours kip is a third of my life, and I’ve got better things to do with my time than have strange dreams, snore and suspend breathing for long periods of time before violently sucking in air like a man surfacing from a deep lake.

So now I sleep between 3 and 4 hours a night, but take one or two naps of 8-10 minutes each during the day, multiple-sleep pattern is known as “polyphasic sleep”. This means that my total time spent sleeping every day is only 4.5 hours per day, saving me 3.5 hours per day compared to the monophasic 8-hour model.

So, 7 days a week I have an extra 3.5 hours of awake time: that’s 24.5 hours more awake time, every week – an eight-day week!

Is this good?

Maybe... I get a lot done, but there are downsides, too: society isn’t geared-up for oddballs with unconventional sleeping habits, and no sane woman is going to put up with my crazy nocturnal habits.

Now, if I could just eliminate the residual sleep I do need, I’d have time to think up a solution to that problem...

It’s just a thought, but everything begins with a single thought...



© Neil Cowmeadow 2018
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Episode 112 - Losing My Religion...

16/8/2018

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Sir Isaac Newton, Scientist, Philosopher, President of the Royal Sciety, Thief.
Episode 112 - Losing My Religion

The Thursday Thesis  - 06/08/2018


You - like me, and like pretty much everyone else around us - grew up in the shadow of Science and Mathematics , the so-called “Queen of the Sciences”. To keep it simple, I’ll lump Mathematics and Science together and call them “Science”.

Science was drummed into us in school and was generally considered to be a very good thing indeed. Our science teachers were – at least to me – the keepers of The Knowledge – handing down morsels of erudition from the high table of the great minds: Newton, Einstein, Rutherford, Darwin, and the rest of that rabble.

In the absence of evidence for other people’s gods, science became my god – because it made everything understandable with its Laws and Universal Constants.

Then there was this thing called The Scientific Method – this is the route by which ideas are suggested, tested, reviewed and proven.

It goes something like this: let’s say that I have a brilliant idea (stop giggling, because it could happen) a spark of genius so dazzling that it will change the world forever. I cobble together an experiment that proves my idea to be an absolute belter and I write a properly formatted scientific paper and send it off to other scientists for “peer review”: this is their chance to poke holes in my idea and prove me wrong. This is a good thing: giving other people the chance to disprove my idea, or “falsify” it is Science’s way to eliminate the unworthy. In Science, nobody gets a pass and every new theory has to stand up to scrutiny.

Now, just to add a bit of intrigue, I’ll mention that theft is common within the peer-review process and there are plenty of well-documented cases of intellectual theft in the history of Science. This is not just a modern problem where vast amounts of money, job security and fame are at stake. In fact, Newton seems to have been a particularly good thief – and, as President of The Royal Society at the time - he could behave more-or-less as he pleased and knobble anyone who stood in his way.

“Why are you banging on about peer-review?” you ask impatiently.

Well, here’s the thing: Scientists are reviewing new theories and ideas from the standpoint of Science, and there are jobs, money and prestige at stake. Now, if I show up with my brilliant idea and change everything, then the Scientists reviewing my work are suddenly out of work. That’s where my faith in Science faltered and fell: the gatekeepers appear to be more interested in protecting their positions, incomes and the status quo than expanding the range of human understanding.

Real scientists follow the observable facts – the data – rather than dismiss the data because Science says that the data is wrong. And God forbid that any data breaks Science’s Laws makes it through peer-review: these strange phenomena are called “anomalous” and conveniently parked out at the fringes of mainstream Science, rather than dragged into the centre.

Anomalous data are a challenge to what we think we know, a red flag that there’s a hole in the theory or that the Laws of Science are not really laws but entrenched ideas that demand to be updated. That’s how Science – if it is to be worthy of the name – should be done: fact should determine theory, rather than the theory determining the permissible facts.

The current darling of Science, Quantum Theory, is busily attempting ever more tortuous ways of explaining everything in terms of itself, instead of holding its hands up and saying “buggered if we know” when confronted with the apparent paradoxes of what we understand as the real Universe.

Science has no clue at all about remote action at a distance, which defies the Law that nothing can travel faster than the speed of light, and is at a loss to explain the observer effect, where the mere presence of a human being will affect the outcome of an experiment - depending on the human’s intention for the experiment.

Then there are the well-documented cases of remote viewing, precognition, the power of meditation to control machines – not to mention all those inventions that have been confiscated and disappeared from the public records.

And there’s Dark Energy and Dark matter, where “Dark” means “we can’t find it or explain it, but we think or know it’s there or should be there.

And please, please, please don’t get me started on medicine that hasn’t been able to do a thing for a person’s chronic pain for thirty-plus years, but I can turn off that pain in a few minutes.

And then there is the problem of Universal Constants...

The problem with Universal Constants (like “Big G”, or G – the gravitational force - and C, the speed of light on a vacuum) is that they change. Science has fixed the speed of light problem by creating a circular reference, rather than facing up to the fact that it ain’t a constant at all. In short, Science is lying to itself and to you and I about the speed of light – and if it’s lying about that, getting caught in that might lead you to ask what else it’s fibbing about.

You see, Science doesn’t know everything – not by a long chalk – but it pretends to. Things that happen but which break the Laws of Science are too often shut-down in peer review or dismissed as anomalous data.

That’s why I don’t believe in Science any more: it is a useful tool, as far as it goes, but it doesn’t cover everything. And it’s a dangerous situation where a single point of view dominates the discourse and intellectual fascism rules.

Science lays claim to absolute knowledge, when all it really has is a rag-bag of contingent theories that don’t always meet the challenges presented by observations of reality.

Science is no longer my religion and my faith, but is - at best - a rabble of dubious dogma fit to be debunked by a long, cold examination of the evidence.

Science is a self-reinforcing belief system – a fundamentalist religious sect, able only to see with its own eyes, narrowing its perspective day by day.

Belief – certainty, often without evidence – is static, ossified, and immovable. Logic and reason cannot assail it, because belief is irrational and not subject to examination.

And belief is the barrier to understanding.

Belief is the full-stop that ends thought.

And everything begins with a single thought...


© Neil Cowmeadow 2018
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Episode 111 - I Am Vs. I Do

9/8/2018

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In 1637, the philosopher Rene Descartes wrote "I think, therefore I am". Clever sod.
The Thursday Thesis  - 09/08/2018

Say the words “I am” and your entire nervous system stands to attention.

Tell me what you do and I’ll likely drift off to sleep...

It’s a funny thing, but when you think of those two statements the chances are that you’ll conflate them down to being the same thing – even though they are chalk and cheese to anyone interested in making changes to their lives and behaviours.

Here’s why they are different: “I do” is an activity statement, whilst “I am” is an identity statement.

Whenever we say that we do something we are just talking about an activity, a behaviour pattern: it’s just something we do.

For example, when someone tells me that they play guitar, they are telling me what they do. This is different to when someone tells me that they are a guitarist: in this case they are telling me that playing guitar is a vital part of who they consider themselves to be.

The same goes for a person who repeatedly puts lighted cigarettes in their mouth but wants my help to stop doing it.

The subject who tells me that she “...is a smoker” or says “I am addicted to cigarettes...” has made smoking a part of who she believes herself to be. Making a change to her identity will be challenging and painful (for her) because it places her sense of self under threat: we all fight like demons to preserve our sense of self and what is right and proper for us.

Contrast this with the same person who says “...I smoke 20 cigarettes every day” or “...I have a smoke at break-time when I am at work”. This person is recognising – probably below the level of her conscious awareness – that smoking is just something she does. In this case smoking is not part of her identity, so change will be easier to implement and maintain because it conveys no threat to her sense of self.

So what?

Here’s the cool part: if you consciously make the things you want part of your identity, they will feel much easier to accept into your life and to integrate with other aspects of who you feel yourself to be.

Likewise, changing your unwanted behaviours can be made easier by de-coupling them from your sense of self.

Both of these routes are driven by language patterns and your sense of identity; simply changing the words nudges your behaviour either towards what you want or away from what you don’t want, and this is one of the reasons why daily journaling, affirmations and goal-setting are so effective.

The daily re-statement of desired outcomes, statements made in terms of our identity, realigns our sense of who we are and what is right and proper for us.

In essence, we believe the lies we tell ourselves about who we are and how the world is.

Try this for yourself, right now: say out loud “I am a singer”, and just notice how that feels, deep down inside...

Now say “I do sing, from time to time” and notice how that feels, deep down inside of yourself.

There’s a big difference between how those two statements make you feel.

Unless you are already a singer, the “I am a singer” statement will probably feel bigger, more significant and more uncomfortable that the “I do sing...” statement. After all, singing is just something you do, isn’t it.

This is why we resist the thing we want, rather than integrate it into our identity and do it more whilst having more fun along the way.

And here’s a little sidebar to stir into the mix: some people will add a situational qualification to their behaviour and constrain it to a place or time when it is acceptable – for example, singing might only be OK when we are in the shower, driving the car, or when nobody else is at home.

So what do you say about yourself, and what does that say about you?

I used to say (jokingly) that I was a good guy who did bad things – just to even things out. The problem is that my tiny, pea-sized brain doesn’t have a sense of humour and interpreted the joke as a mission statement, with disastrous and life-changing consequences.

D’oh!

Now I remind myself that I’m a good man who does good things.

And it’s getting better.
Everything begins with a single thought...

© Neil Cowmeadow 2018

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Episode 110 - Thoughts Become Things

2/8/2018

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William James - The godfather American psychology. An interesting chap, by all accounts...

The Thursday Thesis  - 02/08/2018

William James – the doyenne of 20th Century American psychology – famously remarked that “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.”

Author and self-help guru Earl Nightingale added that “we become what we think about, most  of the time”.

Both of these things are true – but there is cautionary note to be sounded, perhaps it’s the chime of an alarm bell.

The popular film The Secret even spends 87 screen minutes labouring the point....

But here’s the thing - your dominant thoughts are not necessarily the ones that you are aware of.

There are two levels of thought – the conscious thoughts that you are aware of, and the sub-conscious thoughts which exist just below the threshold of your awareness.

Managing your conscious thoughts and your state is possible, given practice and a structure to build a desired condition or response to circumstances or events.

Your subconscious thoughts are altogether trickier little buggers, though – because you can’t manage what you are not aware of. And since these thoughts are running in the background of your mind at all times, they assert dominance – even over the carefully constructed responses and states held in the conscious mind.

Subconscious thoughts run the machinery of your life – rather like Windows or Mac OS run your computer: everything else runs on top of the operating system, and the operating system is effectively invisible whilst we are busy running our chosen programs.

The good news is that our habitual use of our chosen thought programs will eventually affect and even over-write our subconscious thoughts, upgrading our operating system.
How cool is that?

We can, in effect, programme our own neck-top computer!

And if we don’t run the mental software WE want in our own minds, we will unquestioningly run whatever someone else install in our heads – be it society, media, our peers or our families – regardless of whether those programs help or hurt us.

When you’re watching or listening to the daily torrent of dysfunction, cruelty, misery, hate, fear and pessimism that is the mainstream of modern life, just pause and ask yourself one simple question:
“Is this helping me or is this hurting me?”

You already know the answer, don’t you?

Turn off the TV news, the social media updates, the moronic radio phone-ins and begin , today, to focus on what does good for you instead, what does good for the people you love, the friends you have and the new friends you haven’t yet said “Hello” to.

What takes you forward, fills you with joy and hope?

What one thing, if you began today and did it every day, would transform your life for the better, for ever?

Begin to think about, and then do, that one thing - because everything begins with a single thought...

© Neil Cowmeadow 2018


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    I'm Neil Cowmeadow, the Guitar Teacher and Guitar Technician, based near Telford, Shropshire.


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