Episode 026 - So, What’s Good About This?

The Thursday Thesis 15/12/2016

Re-Framing Reality...

I’d been deceived.

I’d been lied to by people I had looked up to.

It was terrible. I asked myself “why?” over and over... until I finally asked myself “what’s good about this, then?”

That’s when I realised how lucky I was.

Lucky, because the truth had bubbled to the surface – as the truth always does:  it’s a bugger for it.

Lucky, because discovering the error gave me the time I needed to change course.

Lucky, because the insistent gut-feeling that had plagued me for months had hardened into a realisation, and finally into action.

Lucky, because I immediately stopped wasting precious moments of my life on someone else’s idea of how life should be, and of what was right for me.

That’s what was good about it – instead of waiting for the right moment, waiting for something or someone outside of myself to change, I changed.

I realised that my hours and days would cease to bleed away.

I realised that what was being told to me was true – but only from one particular viewpoint.

From their viewpoint it was going to protect me from potential failure and humiliation.

But from my point of view it was bogus, preventing me from taking a risk and finding out how good I could be.

If I continued to accept their limiting belief, I was a prisoner of it.

Our authority figures may be doing their best to protect us, but their good intentions might not align with what’s best for us as individuals.

I’m not the first – and I won’t be the last – person to be blindsided by someone I looked up to.

We all have people we look up to, admire and respect: parents, teachers, friends and family, public figures – they all have their place in guiding us.

But if we find out that they were wrong, I believe that we should mentally thank them for their input, ask ourselves “what’s good about this?”, and remind ourselves that we are lucky that it’s not too late to correct our course and get on with the rest of our lives.

If we are still breathing, we can begin to write our brand new ending, because we are not too late to learn and try again.

That’s what’s good about this whole “life” thing, when you think about it, isn’t it?

© Neil Cowmeadow 2016
 
 
Please Like and Share The Thursday Thesis with your friends, family, and anyone reckless enough to come within three feet of you. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me.