Episode 154 - What Was Good About Being Dumped...

The Thursday Thesis  - 6/6/2019

"Ah Yes... She was beautiful, and I was blind"

A long time ago, I loved as only the young and reckless can love.

I can still remember what it was like, even now.

But....

And there's always a but, isn't there?

I was lucky to connect the dots between a couple of chance remarks made by friends.

I’d been deceived.

Lied to.

I crumpled, moped and blubbered like - well - the most  crumpled, moping blubbery thing you can imagine.

Eventually an old mate asked me “What’s Good About This?”

He reckoned I'd been lucky; that I'd had a near miss and I was lucky to not waste my precious time on her.

Lucky - because the truth of the situation bubbled to the surface – the truth always does; it’s a bugger for that.

Lucky - because the insistent gut-feeling that had plagued me for months solidified into an undeniable knot of certainty.

Lucky - because I’d no longer waste my precious life where I had no value.

That’s what was good about it – instead of waiting for the right moment, waiting for something to change, I changed.

My hours and days would cease to bleed away, hoping against hope for a miracle.

Blinded and deceived, I had lost any sense of my real worth.

I wasn't the first – and I won’t be the last – man to be deceived.

I still remind myself to pay attention to the gut-feeling that warns and growls out “Danger!”

I remind myself that the way someone does one thing is the way they do everything: their values and belief are shown in all that they do.

I’ll remind myself that thoughts become actions, actions become habits, habits become personalities, and personalities define the life.

And most of the time, a liar will always lie, a thief will always thieve.

And an optimist will continue their unstoppable march, undaunted.

I am now officially an optimist, and I still march on.

That’s what was good about being dumped.