The Thursday Thesis - 16/06/2017 “Close Your Eyes...” Where your mind goes, your body follows: it’s true for everyone and for everything. And when I’m working with students, this is my favourite demonstration of the importance of mindset. Try it for yourself by listening to the audio version of The Thesis, right now. I ask the student to close their eyes, and start to feel more deeply relaxed. Now I ask them to hold their arms out in front of them at shoulder height with palms upwards. I now tie an imaginary helium balloon around their right wrist, describing how the balloon looks, the colour of the ribbon knotted around their wrist, and I explain that the balloon is lighter than air and will – obviously – begin to lift up their right hand, so there’s no need to resist the rising sensation, because it’s a balloon-thing... Now I ask them to prepare their left hand to support a copy of the Encyclopaedia Brittanica which I’ve just bought from a second-hand bookshop. I describe the book’s binding, the gold lettering on its spine and front, the thickness of the book and how heavy it is as I “place” it onto their uplifted palm. I explain that the book is very, very heavy and old; that it is dusty and that the paper is yellowed by the years. Guess what happens – the “balloon” hand rises, sometimes a little, more often, rather a lot. But the “book” hand sinks downwards, sometimes shaking with the sustained effort of holding up that dusty old tome. When I ask the student to open their eyes, they can see a huge difference in hand position. I ask them which was heavier, the book or the balloon? “The book”, they tell me. “What book?” I ask. There is no book, and there is no balloon. The important point here is that your body will behave according to what we believe to be true. In other words, whatever we believe, that’s how it is for us. So, how do you want it to be, for you? You alone will decide: the book or the balloon. You choose... © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 08/06/2017 “The Imperfect Now ”. “Go, little book...” - Geoffrey Chaucer, when sending his Canterbury Tales out into small World of the 14th Century. Almost 700 years later, people are still reading Chaucer’s “little book”. It is not perfect – but it got written. Not only did it get written, it got published. Anybody who writes or seeks to create something will wrestle with their deep need to be perfect – to make their book, song or creation absolutely faultless. So the book never gets finished, the song remains uncompleted, the dreams of our souls lie, unloved and unfinished, in our hearts and on our hard-drives. I’m learning to say “get over it!” to myself. I’m facing-up to the fact that it will never be perfect, and it doesn’t need to be perfect – it just needs to be finished. People don’t want perfection tomorrow – they want excellent, today. This week I’ll be finishing the edits of my second little book and asking the lovely Rosa to format it. It won’t be perfect, but it will be done. The poems you wrote, the stories you told your kids, the pictures you drew when nobody was around to look at them... Those moments of imperfection are the best of you: cherish them, their imperfections, and their honesty, because they were born in a moment when your fear of failure was looking the other way, and when their being born was all that mattered. Those were moments before fear closed you down. So, today, let go of your need to be perfect, and create something imperfect. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 1/06/2017 “The Myth of the Half-Full Glass” As almost everyone knows, you can tell if someone is an optimist or a pessimist by showing them a glass half-full of your drink. “Is this glass half-full or half-empty?” goes the old saw. Conventional wisdom reckons that an optimist will tell you the glass is half-full, whilst a pessimist will gloomily tell you that the glass is half empty. Oh, you have to love pessimists – those Eeyore-like souls who potter around looking for the bad in everything and everyone. Now, here’s the thing: looking for the bad prevents you from looking for the good. Pessimists are so preoccupied with the search for Bad Stuff that the Good Stuff slips past, unnoticed... Does that make sense to you? When you Google for “cats on skateboards” how many suspension bridges show up in your search results? It’s simple, isn’t it? We see the World exactly how we think it is, whether we think it’s a battlefield or a playpen – that’s how it is for us. And that glass - what if it’s actually full of wee? Notice how being half-empty just became a Good Thing? With enough mischief and playfulness we can reframe everything, with a tiny effort. “What’s good about this?” produces a different response than “What’s bad about this?” “What’s funny about this?” gets more laughs than “What’s serious about this?” Get the idea? Different questions produce different answers, different responses, and – ultimately – a different view of the World. If you are looking for an answer, make sure you’re asking the right question. And if you want a suspension bridge, don’t Google for cats... © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 25/05/2017 “Beginning, Enduring” According to Nike founder Phil Knight, “The cowards never started, the weak fell along the way: all that’s left is you and I”. That’s his secret. Begin, keep going, and never stop. It’s so simple. Most people never even start on that big dream, believing it to be too hard or – more often – believing themselves to not be good enough. The weak do fall along the way, not recognising each fall as a way-marker or milestone on the journey. So that leaves you and me. If it is to be, it is up to us: we must bring about the change we want to see in the world. We must be unreasonable enough to doggedly pursue our dreams. And we must never, ever, ever, ever give up. So, today we get started, yes? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 18/05/2017 “Why Being Sure is Stupid" The danger isn’t what you don’t know, it’s what you DO know that imperils you. These are some of the wisest words I’ve ever read. It means that being absolutely sure of what you know is a very dangerous position to find yourself in. The Scientific Method is the dominant theory we use to try to understand our world and what happens in, on and around us. Yet science presents no facts and makes no claim to absolute certainty, because that is not what science is for. That’s why ideas in science are called Theories, rather than facts. Einstein’s Theory of Special Relativity isn’t called the Fact of Special Relativity. After all: it’s just a theory. And when all is said and done, theories are only the currently accepted explanations we have for phenomena. All theories are there to be attacked, tested, torn down and replaced with something better. That’s why it is what you DO know that imperils you: if you are so certain of what you know, there can be no search for better. If you are so sure that you have incontrovertible knowledge, the chances you’ll never even look for anything better. Dissent and the quest for better has given mankind the world we know today. Every innovation, every invention, and every new development has been a result of someone asking “what if...?” and looking for a better solution than the one they had. The very soul of progress is dissent, and constantly challenging one’s current thinking is what advances understanding and knowledge. So, if you look at your life and find it uninspiring, unhappy, unfulfilling or unsatisfactory in any way, just ask yourself what would be better than your current way of doing things. That's the Science of Happiness - it’s as simple as that. Keep asking the question and acting on your answers until you realise that there is nothing that would bring you more inspiration, happiness and fulfilment than you are currently experiencing. Ask better questions, and remember that what you know, right now, might be all that stands between you and a better tomorrow. Stay Curious. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Please Like and Share The Thursday ThoughtCast with your friends, family, and anyone else. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me. Neil@cowtownguitars.net
The Thursday Thesis - 11/05/2017 “Oh, stop being such a wuss - I do it every day”, she said. “I’m a woman, and all women can multi-task, you know”. I asked her to stop the car. There was something terrifying about the way she held her coffee cup against the steering-wheel of the big 4x4 whilst she stroked lipstick onto those lusciously pouting lips, in between speaking on her phone. I got out of her Range Rover and walked away. She thought I was having a breakdown. “Multitasking” – don’t make me laugh. Throwing two tonnes of metal down the road at 50 miles per hour whilst balancing a cup of coffee, daubing war-paint and talking crap – all at the same time – speaks of someone out of control, rather than in control. Add to that arrogant mix the inconvenience of other road users: little crumple-zoned steel boxes and the soft bounciness of cyclists and pedestrians... It’s never going to go well, is it? It’s a little-known fact that multi-Tasking is a computing term, dating back to when machines started to be able to run more than one program at a time. But here’s the thing: they didn’t run more than one program at the same time. No, those early computers divided their processing capacity and shared out slices of time to their various tasks and programs; but because this happened so quickly, the machines seemed to be doing everything at once. So Multi-Tasking is a myth, especially as the term is misapplied to humans. For Multi-Tasking, read Multi-Distracted. If you want to get something done, FOCUS on that one thing. Take away all of the distractions and unrelated activities. If you’re going to drive, then drive – but your phone can wait. If you’re having dinner with your partner, have dinner with your partner – and don’t invite FaceBook to join you. If you’re with your kids, only be with your kids – because your emails will still be in your inbox after you’ve sung that lullaby. Many highly productive people attribute their success to their focus – on doing just one thing. Many of them wake up early to do their most important work before anyone else is awake and potential distractions aren’t getting started. Consequently, these folks have done half a day’s work before the world is even out of bed, let alone got its boots on. FOCUS gets it done. Just do One Thing. Do I miss Range Rover girl? Yes I do. And while she’ll be free in a few weeks, the little boy she crushed will never walk or talk again. His mom has given up her career to care for him. And Range Rover girl will be out of prison soon, she’ll be back out on the road again, Multi-Tasking. Makes you think, doesn’t it? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Please Like and Share The Thursday ThoughtCast with your friends, family, and anyone else.
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