The Answers Have Changed. Albert Einstein famously gave the students on his course the same examination paper two years running. Einstein’s assistant asked the professor if he’d noticed it was the same paper with the same questions he’d set the previous year, to which Einstein replied “It’s not a mistake, the questions are the same; but you see, the answers have changed”. Back in the 1920s and 30s scientific theory was advancing rapidly, so Einstein wasn’t just kidding his assistant – the answers had changed in the intervening year. And isn’t that true of almost everything in life? The answers we have as children and teenagers are different than the answers we have when we are older and our lives have changed: parenthood changes everything, divorce and the death of our loved ones; accidents, injury and illness all conspire to keep the answers we need on the move and elusive. Because everything you currently know is only your best guess, based upon currently available evidence, and that’s the reason why it’s so important to keep learning and to stay curious – because the answers have changed: that’s a fact of life. If you’re not busy finding out those new answers you’ll probably keep on using your old answers, even though your old answers don’t produce the results you want anymore. Think of life as being a long corridor with doors all along both sides: you can’t open a door until you’re right in front of it, so unless you are moving along the corridor you only have access to the one door. Learning and growing is what allows you to progress along the corridor, open more doors and find the answers that you need. So, what are you learning today? It might not be The Answer, but it could be a clue to where The Answer is hiding. Stay Curious. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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Magick - The Science of Success Part 2 – The Rituals The Thursday Thesis - 7/9/2017 Every single one of us has our own daily magic rituals, but don’t panic - we haven’t gone over to the Dark Side or contracted religion, so breathe... What I mean is that we all perform rituals every day: we brush our teeth, tie our shoelaces, commute to our workplace, and do a hundred other things every day without really giving it any thought. Our daily rituals help us to get through the day in much the same way that we did yesterday, the day before that, and the day before that, too. Forming a ritual or habit allows us to have a reliable, pre-set way of performing an action. Once we have a ritualised way of doing something we don’t need to think about it, we just do it the same way that we always do it. Ordinarily this is beneficial to us, as we can delegate our performance of a routine task and free-up our resources for other things. So it makes sense to consciously craft our daily rituals to serve us, doesn’t it? Because when we design our rituals to produce what we want we are truly using "...The Science and Art of causing change to occur in conformity with will..." as Aleister Crowley put it when he defined Magick. If you are not already consciously challenging your normal, habitual ways of doing things then today would be a great day to start thinking about how you do things. Chances are good that most of your habits and rituals were learned accidentally and without a thought as to whether they were going to advance you toward your biggest ambition or hold you back from it. Change your rituals and it will change your life. Simply ask yourself “is this helping me or is this hurting me” when you do anything – especially if you do it in a certain way because that’s how you’ve always done it. If it helps you to achieve your defined goals, let it continue: if it isn’t helping, then do something else. Build your own rituals, rather than doom yourself to repeat other people’s unhelpful ones. If you are overweight, change what you ritually buy when you shop: make a list of healthy foods and ONLY buy what’s on the list. I know a guy who does this, and then (bizarrely) rewards himself with a bag of cookies for being such a healthy shopper! That’s certainly a ritual that he might want to change. If you smoke, change your habit of reaching for instant relief whenever you feel a pang of craving: do something else – anything at all - other than lighting up. Prove to yourself that you are not a helpless, pathetic slave to a manufactured addiction. Each morning I use a handful of designed activities to kick-start my day and move me towards my short, medium, long, and lifetime goals – I call them MAGICK, and it’s probably no surprise that it’s an acronym. Movement: exercise and stretching to keep my body fit for purpose. Affirmation: reinforcing my positivity, goals and my reasons for living. Gratitude: recognising the great things in my life and nudging my mind to find more of them. Inner-vision: solitude, meditation and self-examination. Creation: bringing my dreams into reality – I have to do The Work, nobody is coming to the rescue. Knowledge: keep learning and challenging what I know. So there you have it – my MAGICK rituals. What about you – what are the rituals you want to keep in your life, which ones will you change, and which ones will you begin? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 31/08/2017 I am a huge fan of self-help books – I’ve read or listened to hundreds of them since I gave up my glittering career as a teenage drunk – and I’ve noticed that they all have two big ideas in common. Since both ideas are super-important and interesting, I’m going to cover one this week and one next week. Firstly, there’s the theme of our will and the power to choose the changes we make in our lives: as Gandhi put it, to “be the change you wish to see in the world”. Call it self-mastery, success, or the secret – call it what you will – it all comes down to "The Science and Art of causing Change to occur in conformity with Will". That’s the thrust of what almost every self-help writer and guru preaches. But hold on a minute - that definition didn’t come from Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn or Napoleon Hill - it came from the English writer and occultist Aleister Crowley, as he explained what Magick is. By the way, Magick is the archaic spelling of the word – it’s not a typo – and since this is my blog, I’m going to flit from one spelling to another, so there! You’d be hard-pressed to find anyone in the self-help field who would disagree with that definition as a recipe for success. So, who was Aleister Crowley? Born in Leamington Spa in 1875, Crowley was the son of a successful brewing family who held Christian Fundamentalist beliefs. At Cambridge he captained the university chess team before dropping out to spend his fortune pursuing esoteric and occult knowledge, sex, drugs and adventures of every kind. In time, his infamous lifestyle earned him the title “The wickedest man in the World”, according to the British press, though he preferred to style himself The Beast 666. But he wasn’t just a sex-mad, drug-taking, bisexual, eccentric genius – though that would be enough for many of us. Crowley was also a journalist, novelist, poet, painter, ceremonial magician, mountaineer, and – quite possibly - a spy for the British government. Yet this libertine defined Magick in terms that closely resemble most modern day definitions of success - as extolled in thousands of self-help books, DVDs, online courses and 3-day “Ra-Ra” guru events in arenas all over the World. It’s interesting, isn't it? Every time you see someone who is exceptional at what they do you’ll notice the same thing: they make it look easy, effortless and completely natural... Almost like magic. Non-experts, like you and me, wonder how they do what they do, what their secret is, and how they make it look so easy. There is something magical and spellbinding about mastery and expertise, but it isn’t magic – it’s just technique and technology. “Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic” wrote Arthur C. Clarke, the author of 2001: A Space Odyssey, many science fiction books and the inventor of the communication satellite. Our experts don’t have magic on their side – they have advanced technologies and techniques which we don’t have, yet. And the most important word in that sentence is “yet”. “Yet” tells us that we can acquire the skills and habits of experts, adopt their practices and become experts ourselves – “yet” implies that the skills are learnable and that we can learn them, sometime. Follow your “yet” with “but” and you’re really opening the door to change: say aloud “I don’t know how to do it, yet, but...” What else do you want to add to complete the sentence? If you said “I’m gonna” or “I will”, you’re going to learn how to do it, aren’t you? Words are powerful – perhaps even Magical. But there’s no magick to excellence: I ask you, is effective time management magic, weight loss mystical, or success in business esoteric? I don’t think so. And there's no Magic involved when you are learning to play guitar or any other musical instrument, either. Just find an expert guitar teacher, find out how they do it and do what they do. Not what they appear to do, but how they really do it, because if you learn how it’s really done, you know it’s not magic and you can do it, too. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) tells us to model very specifically what experts do and how they think in order to perform just like they do. That sounds like learning to perform a ritual, doesn’t it? Next week we’ll look at the practical implementation of Magick into your everyday life and how to harness the power of Rituals. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 24/08/2017 How’s your day going, today? Are you having a good day or a bad day? Now ask yourself “why is this a good or bad day?” Chances are that you’ll credit the good day to something outside yourself: you’ll also blame the bad day on something outside of yourself, too. As a coach, teacher, and human being I have a massive problem with blaming or crediting circumstances for my happiness. Here’s why: happy and unhappy are states of mind. Your state of mind can’t be directly affected by anything external to you – the only connection between outside events and conditions is your interpretation of them. It’s obvious, when you stop to think about it, isn’t it? If the mind exists within our self then external factors cannot directly influence our state of mind because there is no unmediated connection between the external and the internal. And if circumstances are not the direct cause of happy or unhappy states of mind - our response to those external factors is. That’s why it’s so important to govern how we interpret what we hear, think, and believe – to protect us from reacting reflexively to events. I see it all the time in my guitar teaching sessions where it’s very common for students to unquestioningly recite other people’s opinions and preconceptions. They’ll often tell me “I have no talent” or “I’m not good at this”, or any other of the thousands of variations they’ve been given over the years. Their reflexive response is a compilation of other people’s opinions and throw-away remarks rather than the considered judgement of an expert guitarist or teacher. Letting that loop playback over and over again can go on for a lifetime, colouring every event and experience concerning (in this example) playing the guitar. For years – even decades – our response to circumstances and events gets handled by erroneous opinions of other people: we don’t even know that we are doing it – we “just know” we’re “untalented” or “no good at this”. It’s as though we’ve outsourced our responses to events. But that’s our job: nobody else can (or should) do it for us. That job is way too important to unwittingly handover to anyone else, ever. We are in control. When we learn to govern and control our reactions to external circumstances, we are in control of our mind, and thus our state of happiness or misery. And if we’re not in control, it becomes easy to imagine something outside of our self “triggering” us into an irrational state of mind. “Getting triggered” is a feeble justification – an excuse - and I’m not buying it. The bottom line is this: we always choose to be masters of circumstance or slaves to it. We always choose to be happy or unhappy. What are you choosing today? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Remember to Like and Share The Thursday Thesis with your friends, family, and anyone else. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me. Neil@cowtownguitars.net The Thursday Thesis - 17/08/2017 Whenever you are thinking of a new goal or trying to achieve a little more, here’s a stupid-simple way to surprise yourself with a great idea. I call it the 20 Questions, and it involves (wait for it!) asking yourself twenty questions and writing down whatever comes to mind. But here’s the clever bit – every single one of the twenty questions is the same. How simple is that? So, let’s suppose that want to make more money... Ask yourself “what can I do to make more money, right now?” and write down your answer. How about stopping smoking? Ask yourself “what can I do instead of lighting a cigarette?” Now repeat the process. Keep going until you have your 20 answers. I promise you this: the first 10-12 answers will be obvious because the easy answers come first. The good stuff happens after about the 12th question, the target of 20 (or 30, or 40...) compels you to keep thinking, and this is where you begin to find creative answers. However crazy your answers become, don’t stop until you have your 20 answers. Genius lies just beyond crazy, in my opinion. Go and try it, right now – you know you want to, don’t you? And don’t stop at crazy. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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It is always 99% easy. Yes, easy: the hard work, day in, day out, that produces the bulk of a project - that is the easy part. The problem is always that last 1%. At university the last 1% was submitting the assignments; today it is publishing a finished book or piece of music. You’d think it would be easy to just press the button and breathe, wouldn’t you? It isn’t easy - the fear contained in that last 1% can paralyse even the strongest person. But that last 1% is all that stands between the work and the audience: the people we wrote, composed, worked and dreamed for. In soccer, it’s the last 1% that makes all the difference. Between a goal and a miss, between winning and losing – that’s the 1%. If the ball never crosses the line – the game ends in a nil-nil draw: that’s all that gets written on the score-sheet. In life, it’s the 1% that sorts out the wannabes from the gonnabes; those who succeed and complete the job, and those who give up on the one-yard line. What’s the point in writing the world’s best novel, symphony, pop song or movie script if it sits, forever in your desk drawer or lurks in an obscure folder of your hard drive, unread, unheard, unsung and unseen? To paraphrase Oliver Wendell Holmes: “the tragedy of the average man is that he goes to his grave with his music still inside him”. The last 1% is the showdown between hope and fear. And fear fights to kill. Game on! © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Please Like and Share The Thursday Thesis with your friends, family, your cat and anyone else. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me. The Thursday Thesis - 2/8/2017
It’s that time of year again: when millions of us Brits pack our bags and head off for a week or two on our annual summer holiday. For some of us it’s a chance to bake our brains on the beach of a tropical paradise; for others it’s seeing the sights of one or other of the great cities of the world. Either of those holidays might appeal to you, or it might be something else again: we’re all different. But I’m not a fan. I don’t like lying on beaches, bar-hopping, playing golf every day or... well, just about anything that takes me away from teaching, learning and my work. Ok, I confess: I don’t like holidays very much – period. To me (and I’m not the only weirdo out there) there’s something odd about “escaping” from my work for a couple of weeks. This is one of the downsides of doing what you love for a living, and wanting to do it all the time. Now, I’m not sure if this is a problem. We’ll see. According to a recent survey, 84% of Brits don’t enjoy their job. That means that for 84% of the population, getting away from it all is a great idea: they’ve worked for it, they’ve earned it, and by golly they need it. And I still remember how it felt, when I was in the wrong job: my colleagues and I worked dutifully for most of the year in the jobs we didn’t enjoy in order to afford the things we wanted – including our hoidays abroad. At the time it didn’t strike me as odd: it’s what we did, and nobody challenged it. We planned our escapes for months, worked overtime to pay for it, and bitched about going back to work afterwards. But these days I have to be dragged, kicking and screaming to the airport. There’s something peculiar (at least to my addled brain) in absenting myself from my son, the work I love and the people I get to do it with, in order to do things I don’t enjoy anywhere near as much. Perhaps I’m odd, perhaps it just means that I am doing what I should be doing – perhaps I’m just a grumpy git who hates his routines being disrupted – who knows? I wish I’d known - I wish someone had told me - that when your work is your play, and your vocation feels like your vacation, you’ll never work a day in your life. Happy holidays! © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Love Overload...
The Thursday Thesis - 27/07/2017 It’s a funny thing, but most people complain of being overloaded – you, yourself, might even think it’s a bad thing. You would – of course – be wrong. Every piece of research I’ve ever read suggests that Overload is a Good Thing – with capitals! Here’s how it works: every time you overload a muscle it suffers damage. But our bodies adapt to that damage and overcompensate: they seem to assume we’ll do the same stupid thing again and provide us with more muscle in a bid to protect us from future damage. A similar process occurs in our brains, that trembling network of connections and cells. Use it, push it, load it up and it will begin to morph into a faster and better brain. The process even has an expensive-sounding name: neuroplasticity. So we are built to grow, but it takes the threat of damage and a crisis situation to trigger that growth – it’s all tied in to our innate fight or flight response to danger. No crisis, no growth. So it’s essential that we do things that Overload and scare us: how else can we develop and grow stronger? I’m currently training to improve my public speaking abilities, which are already pretty good. But what’s fascinating to watch is how I and the other trainees smash through our fear and emerge unscathed. Within three days, one lady went from Overload and total meltdown to confident speaker: a little more practice and she’ll be rocking the house down. How did she get there? Incrementally doing a little more, a little more, a little more... Things stuck, ideas gelled, words tumbled... Do a bit, add a bit, do a bit more. Now repeat. Rest and sleep complete the process. I love Overload, so give me more, more, more! © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Remember to Like and Share The Thursday ThoughtCast with your friends, family, and anyone else. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me. Neil@cowtownguitars.net . The Thursday Thesis - 20/07/2017 The very excellent Angi Magic’s favourite word is “Outrageous!” – with an exclamation mark. And, a couple of days ago, I got to thinking about setting some “Outrageous!” and unreasonable goals for myself – wondering what I could do to power-up my productivity and catalyse myself into action. I asked myself “How can I share what I teach - music, guitar, happiness, and all the rest - with the 7 billion or so people I can’t work with face to face?” After one too many espressos it dawned on me that if I got my sorry arse into the chair every single day and wrote for a couple of hours every single day, I could probably finish a book a month – that would be a start, wouldn’t it? Outrageous! Unreasonable? Do-able? Let’s see... I already have over 140 outlines and/or ideas for books sitting on my hard-drive, where they are doing no good at all and helping nobody. My “Outrageous!” Idea looks like a great plan to get them off the drive and into ink... It’ll keep me busy for the next few years, at least. I’m up for the challenge, and I realise that going public with my “Outrageous!” goal is going to nail my backside down: if I miss a deadline, I know I’m going to hear about. Going public with your own Goals and Ambitions might just light a rocket under you, too. The poet, Mary Oliver asks, in one of her works, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” But don’t tell me – tell the people who will inspire you to do it, and who’ll hold you to account if you don’t. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 13/07/2017 “Go into The Silence...” These days, everyone is so “Connected”, our phones are on 24/7, we’re on Wi-Fi wherever we go, and we can stream music, video, and social media almost anywhere. But what are we actually connected to? In becoming more and more a node on a network, have we lost touch with ourselves? Have we, ourselves, become the small voice lost in the babble and roar of the crowd? And have we lost the Art of Solitude: the pleasure of being singular? As we have become more and more bombarded by media messages, constant connectivity and the social pressure to conform, what place is there for Solitude? Now I’m talking about Solitude, here – not loneliness – but the contented state of being quietly by oneself. You will be thought odd if you dare to turn off the phone and go invisible, kill the radio, get the hell away from the toxic telly and go into the silence of Solitude. Can you hear them saying “Are you ok? It’s not normal to be alone...” as though there was some kind of problem in you valuing yourself enough to step off the conveyor-belt of conformity and just be by yourself? Ah, Solitude – my wordless companion in stretching moonlight shadows and whispering winds; passionate mistress of the salt-streaked gale on the shore. I long for your silent embrace, your accepting quietude and your caress. Turn off The World, and let me go into The Silence again. Yes, go into The Silence - I dare you... © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 06/07/2017 “Whoever Controls the Language Controls the Debate...” WARNING: May Provoke Uncomfortable Thinking. It’s a funny thing, language. At one level it is capable of vividly expressing the core of who and what we are – this is the domain of poets, writers: those who are determined to be clear and direct. At the opposite pole there is the language that is used to hoodwink, deceive, distort and steal: Weasel Words. George Orwell knew all about Weasel Words and their ability to control the thoughts of others. In his best-know work Nineteen Eighty Four, the totalitarian regime overseen by Big Brother restricts dissent by restricting the words available to contain meaning. He expands his exploration of Weasel Words in the essay Politics and The English Language, which – when read today – seems remarkably prescient of our times. Beware the Weasel Words! Restricting which words can and cannot be used is a powerful way to restrict any exchange of ideas – that is the genius of Orwell’s Newspeak – a language so bland and impoverished the there are no words that can even contain the idea of dissent. Today we see and hear euphemism in place of clarity: nice-sounding words that conceal a vile truth. Remember when we heard “ethnic cleansing” for the first time? It sounds so hygienic, doesn’t it? So much nicer than “mass slaughter of people on religious or racial grounds”, don’t you think? Likewise the tidiness of the “West Bank”, rather than the “land illegally occupied by Israeli invaders and controlled by military force at the point of a gun”. When resistance fighters are labelled “Islamic Fundamentalist Terrorists” we can easily lose sight of the reality of a frightened and desperate people fighting for the land they call home, their way of life, and the future of their families, can’t we? If your homeland were invaded by an out-of-control, militaristic rogue state – say, Israel or the USA, backed up by a gaggle of fawning, compliant and gullible allies – what would you do? If you work to repel the invaders, are you a Resistance Fighter or a Fundamentalist Terrorist? When the good ol’ US of A adds to its tally of “interventions” by invading yet another sovereign state, it is a “regime change” – which sounds so much more civilised than decapitating another government that the US does not approve of. In war, the first casualty is Truth. And you know we’re in trouble when “Post-Truth” is the Oxford Dictionary’s Word of The Year (2016), don’t you? And if we are living in the era of “Post-Truth politics”, are we not thoughtlessly submitting ourselves to be governed by the scum and dross which remains after The Truth has been taken away? Words are power – use them wisely. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 29/06/2017 “Just Don’t...” This week, to celebrate The Thursday Thesis’ first birthday (Happy Birthday, baby) I’d like to share one of the wisest principles of happiness I’ve ever heard. I can’t claim to have originated it, though I wish I had: I got it from my friend and mentor Peter Thomson – the hugely successful author and trainer. You can find out all about Peter at www.PeterThomson.com or watch his take on the core idea of my next book Elephant Sandwiches at http://www.neilcowmeadow.com/testimonials.html Peter’s diamond of wisdom – even better than a pearl – was this: DDWT. Huh? DDWT – what’s that all about? Don’t Deal With Tossers. Simple, isn’t it? To put it another way - decline to work with, live with, associate with, anybody who makes you unhappy. Why? Because there’s no amount of money that you can be paid that can compensate you for being made to feel miserable by someone else. Though Peter gave me that gem as a maxim for business, I think it applies to every area of life. Don’t whine about your idiot boss, your cretinous co-worker, your abusive partner – yada, yada, yada - give ‘em the finger and walk. This also goes for those dysfunctional half-wits and preening wannabees on unreality TV: fire them - DDWT! Life is short – too short – so why agree to be made miserable by someone else whilst you’re still alive? There are 7.5 BILLION people on this planet – it’s not as though there are no other people you could be with. In work, in life, in love, and in general, DDWT: Don’t Deal With Tossers. You know it makes sense, don’t you? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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“Your Inner Negative Image...” As we explored in last week’s TT, where your mind goes, your body follows; so let’s continue with that idea, and mull over the way we define ourselves by what we are not – because it’s a huge idea that we say are what we are not. Why should this be true? Hmmm.... It’s that pesky brain, again; playing games and messing with your mind. The problem is that our brains don’t handle negations – not’s, no’s, un’s and the like – very well. Do not think of an elephant. What are you thinking of? Despite being told not to, you are undoubtedly thinking of an elephant. Naughty you. What happened? Were you just contrary, or is there something else at play? The brain has to think of the thing in order to not think of the thing, and the word “elephant” immediately conjures the image of an elephant from your memory – just so that the image can be erased. So what happens when we tell ourselves what we are not, when we tell ourselves we are not lazy, scared, fat or poor? We imagine ourselves as just the things we wish not to be. Nowt as strange as folk, as they say. And that’s why any goal we have for ourselves must be positively stated. It’s why “I’m not poor” won’t end well, whereas “I’m financially successful” will probably do the business. Similarly, “I’m a non-smoker” will be feeble when compared to “I’m healthy and strong, and I breathe clean air into my spotless lungs”. So what are you telling yourself you’re not, every day? Makes you think, doesn’t it?
The Thursday Thesis - 16/06/2017 “Close Your Eyes...” Where your mind goes, your body follows: it’s true for everyone and for everything. And when I’m working with students, this is my favourite demonstration of the importance of mindset. Try it for yourself by listening to the audio version of The Thesis, right now. I ask the student to close their eyes, and start to feel more deeply relaxed. Now I ask them to hold their arms out in front of them at shoulder height with palms upwards. I now tie an imaginary helium balloon around their right wrist, describing how the balloon looks, the colour of the ribbon knotted around their wrist, and I explain that the balloon is lighter than air and will – obviously – begin to lift up their right hand, so there’s no need to resist the rising sensation, because it’s a balloon-thing... Now I ask them to prepare their left hand to support a copy of the Encyclopaedia Brittanica which I’ve just bought from a second-hand bookshop. I describe the book’s binding, the gold lettering on its spine and front, the thickness of the book and how heavy it is as I “place” it onto their uplifted palm. I explain that the book is very, very heavy and old; that it is dusty and that the paper is yellowed by the years. Guess what happens – the “balloon” hand rises, sometimes a little, more often, rather a lot. But the “book” hand sinks downwards, sometimes shaking with the sustained effort of holding up that dusty old tome. When I ask the student to open their eyes, they can see a huge difference in hand position. I ask them which was heavier, the book or the balloon? “The book”, they tell me. “What book?” I ask. There is no book, and there is no balloon. The important point here is that your body will behave according to what we believe to be true. In other words, whatever we believe, that’s how it is for us. So, how do you want it to be, for you? You alone will decide: the book or the balloon. You choose... © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 08/06/2017 “The Imperfect Now ”. “Go, little book...” - Geoffrey Chaucer, when sending his Canterbury Tales out into small World of the 14th Century. Almost 700 years later, people are still reading Chaucer’s “little book”. It is not perfect – but it got written. Not only did it get written, it got published. Anybody who writes or seeks to create something will wrestle with their deep need to be perfect – to make their book, song or creation absolutely faultless. So the book never gets finished, the song remains uncompleted, the dreams of our souls lie, unloved and unfinished, in our hearts and on our hard-drives. I’m learning to say “get over it!” to myself. I’m facing-up to the fact that it will never be perfect, and it doesn’t need to be perfect – it just needs to be finished. People don’t want perfection tomorrow – they want excellent, today. This week I’ll be finishing the edits of my second little book and asking the lovely Rosa to format it. It won’t be perfect, but it will be done. The poems you wrote, the stories you told your kids, the pictures you drew when nobody was around to look at them... Those moments of imperfection are the best of you: cherish them, their imperfections, and their honesty, because they were born in a moment when your fear of failure was looking the other way, and when their being born was all that mattered. Those were moments before fear closed you down. So, today, let go of your need to be perfect, and create something imperfect. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 1/06/2017 “The Myth of the Half-Full Glass” As almost everyone knows, you can tell if someone is an optimist or a pessimist by showing them a glass half-full of your drink. “Is this glass half-full or half-empty?” goes the old saw. Conventional wisdom reckons that an optimist will tell you the glass is half-full, whilst a pessimist will gloomily tell you that the glass is half empty. Oh, you have to love pessimists – those Eeyore-like souls who potter around looking for the bad in everything and everyone. Now, here’s the thing: looking for the bad prevents you from looking for the good. Pessimists are so preoccupied with the search for Bad Stuff that the Good Stuff slips past, unnoticed... Does that make sense to you? When you Google for “cats on skateboards” how many suspension bridges show up in your search results? It’s simple, isn’t it? We see the World exactly how we think it is, whether we think it’s a battlefield or a playpen – that’s how it is for us. And that glass - what if it’s actually full of wee? Notice how being half-empty just became a Good Thing? With enough mischief and playfulness we can reframe everything, with a tiny effort. “What’s good about this?” produces a different response than “What’s bad about this?” “What’s funny about this?” gets more laughs than “What’s serious about this?” Get the idea? Different questions produce different answers, different responses, and – ultimately – a different view of the World. If you are looking for an answer, make sure you’re asking the right question. And if you want a suspension bridge, don’t Google for cats... © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 25/05/2017 “Beginning, Enduring” According to Nike founder Phil Knight, “The cowards never started, the weak fell along the way: all that’s left is you and I”. That’s his secret. Begin, keep going, and never stop. It’s so simple. Most people never even start on that big dream, believing it to be too hard or – more often – believing themselves to not be good enough. The weak do fall along the way, not recognising each fall as a way-marker or milestone on the journey. So that leaves you and me. If it is to be, it is up to us: we must bring about the change we want to see in the world. We must be unreasonable enough to doggedly pursue our dreams. And we must never, ever, ever, ever give up. So, today we get started, yes? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017
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The Thursday Thesis - 18/05/2017 “Why Being Sure is Stupid" The danger isn’t what you don’t know, it’s what you DO know that imperils you. These are some of the wisest words I’ve ever read. It means that being absolutely sure of what you know is a very dangerous position to find yourself in. The Scientific Method is the dominant theory we use to try to understand our world and what happens in, on and around us. Yet science presents no facts and makes no claim to absolute certainty, because that is not what science is for. That’s why ideas in science are called Theories, rather than facts. Einstein’s Theory of Special Relativity isn’t called the Fact of Special Relativity. After all: it’s just a theory. And when all is said and done, theories are only the currently accepted explanations we have for phenomena. All theories are there to be attacked, tested, torn down and replaced with something better. That’s why it is what you DO know that imperils you: if you are so certain of what you know, there can be no search for better. If you are so sure that you have incontrovertible knowledge, the chances you’ll never even look for anything better. Dissent and the quest for better has given mankind the world we know today. Every innovation, every invention, and every new development has been a result of someone asking “what if...?” and looking for a better solution than the one they had. The very soul of progress is dissent, and constantly challenging one’s current thinking is what advances understanding and knowledge. So, if you look at your life and find it uninspiring, unhappy, unfulfilling or unsatisfactory in any way, just ask yourself what would be better than your current way of doing things. That's the Science of Happiness - it’s as simple as that. Keep asking the question and acting on your answers until you realise that there is nothing that would bring you more inspiration, happiness and fulfilment than you are currently experiencing. Ask better questions, and remember that what you know, right now, might be all that stands between you and a better tomorrow. Stay Curious. © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Please Like and Share The Thursday ThoughtCast with your friends, family, and anyone else. I’d love to hear your comments, along with any ideas you’d care to hurl at me. Neil@cowtownguitars.net
The Thursday Thesis - 11/05/2017 “Oh, stop being such a wuss - I do it every day”, she said. “I’m a woman, and all women can multi-task, you know”. I asked her to stop the car. There was something terrifying about the way she held her coffee cup against the steering-wheel of the big 4x4 whilst she stroked lipstick onto those lusciously pouting lips, in between speaking on her phone. I got out of her Range Rover and walked away. She thought I was having a breakdown. “Multitasking” – don’t make me laugh. Throwing two tonnes of metal down the road at 50 miles per hour whilst balancing a cup of coffee, daubing war-paint and talking crap – all at the same time – speaks of someone out of control, rather than in control. Add to that arrogant mix the inconvenience of other road users: little crumple-zoned steel boxes and the soft bounciness of cyclists and pedestrians... It’s never going to go well, is it? It’s a little-known fact that multi-Tasking is a computing term, dating back to when machines started to be able to run more than one program at a time. But here’s the thing: they didn’t run more than one program at the same time. No, those early computers divided their processing capacity and shared out slices of time to their various tasks and programs; but because this happened so quickly, the machines seemed to be doing everything at once. So Multi-Tasking is a myth, especially as the term is misapplied to humans. For Multi-Tasking, read Multi-Distracted. If you want to get something done, FOCUS on that one thing. Take away all of the distractions and unrelated activities. If you’re going to drive, then drive – but your phone can wait. If you’re having dinner with your partner, have dinner with your partner – and don’t invite FaceBook to join you. If you’re with your kids, only be with your kids – because your emails will still be in your inbox after you’ve sung that lullaby. Many highly productive people attribute their success to their focus – on doing just one thing. Many of them wake up early to do their most important work before anyone else is awake and potential distractions aren’t getting started. Consequently, these folks have done half a day’s work before the world is even out of bed, let alone got its boots on. FOCUS gets it done. Just do One Thing. Do I miss Range Rover girl? Yes I do. And while she’ll be free in a few weeks, the little boy she crushed will never walk or talk again. His mom has given up her career to care for him. And Range Rover girl will be out of prison soon, she’ll be back out on the road again, Multi-Tasking. Makes you think, doesn’t it? © Neil Cowmeadow 2017 Please Like and Share The Thursday ThoughtCast with your friends, family, and anyone else.
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